Over the years, I've learned to value healthy hair. When I see hair as a part of my self-care routine, I have a healthier, more fun relationship with it. But there was a time when if my hair wasn’t right, I wouldn’t leave the house. Period. I’d like to think I am a little more evolved now, and, um, have a stronger headwrap game.
As a teenager, I transformed my hair, so that I could be the woman I imagined in my head. I wanted my hair to do so much for me. “Make me that girl,” I’d think. Now I listen to it. My hair doesn’t like to be manipulated; it likes to be moisturised, conditioned, and worn in a protective style. I’m finally in a place of not wanting anything from my hair, instead, simply wanting to take care of it. It says a lot that these days, when I want to feel my best, I go for a big blow out. Let me tell you, the only thing bigger than the booty is the fro.
Wow, Traci Ellis Ross, Diana Ross. But Whitney White, who's known as Naptural85 on YouTube, is my ultimate because her hair texture is similar to mine, and I love how she isn’t attached to hair length rather hair health.
Unless it’s for a shoot where I need to get into a specific character, it's important for me to always feel like myself in my wigs. I want my weaves to feel like my own hair, because I am not trying to be anyone else when I wear a half wig, a full wig, or a sew in. The biggest part in executing this is matching my hair texture, a 4a.
The first time I saw my natural curl pattern. After years and years of straightening my hair I had no idea what my hair even looked like, or how it would curl. Once I saw my real texture, I never looked back.
As I type this I am literally trying to talk myself out of colouring my hair a light brown. I love hair colour, balayage is my new go-to, @milenarosehair has been my colourist in LA. We’ve played with browns, blondes, and reds on hair extensions. For me, hair colour spices up my life. If I need to feel sexy or inspired, my first change will be to my hair. It just changes how I feel about myself. I noticed with my red hair I felt more like an ‘artist’ – very creative and empowered. When I have a fro, I feel confident, authentic and beautiful, and, with blonde hair, I feel fun, mischievous and sexy.
When I take out my protective style and my natural hair is thriving. For me, there's no point in hair looking great on the outside if you're damaging what's authentically yours. The goal is to have balance. Having fun with hair extensions, and also being able to take off your wig or weave and love the hair on your own head. I never want to be dependent on extensions, or feel more like myself with them than I do without. I still very much value the crown I was born with.
I love that it’s light but also lathers and, as the name says, it's sulphate free, baby.
I use this at least once a month. Usually I put a plastic cap on and sit under my hairdryer in order to deeply condition it. I also add Amber Danny hair growth serum (below) to my scalp during this process for a little extra love.
Amber Danny Hair Growth Serum is a game changer. Combined with Alikay Hair Growth Oil, it's the bedrock of my routine, making my hair healthier, stronger and longer. At my peak, I think my hair was waist length. Serious.
Anyone who knows me knows that there’s going to be a silk pillowcase on my bed that I just have to sleep on, because I use a lot of hair oil. LA water can be a bit harsh, I find that sealing my ends with castor oil helps protect my hair in between washes.
This is a staple. I try not to travel without it. It’s genius, easy to use, and has a great low setting. When I have to blend my natural hair with the extensions this is the one. Why did no-one think of this sooner? Or did I just not know about it. Anyway, hard recommend.
credit | @singkirbysing